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    Living A Patient’s Life – Fear, Anxiety, The Unknown! – Carers Insight - Fear, Anxiety, The Unknown - The Carer Ends Up Living The patient's Life!! Kaylene’s words to every patient and carer; have a place to go to express your greatest joys, fears and unhappiness – a safe place. Feel as though you are truly connected. The carer needs a safe environment; one that is away from READ ON
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    “I’m NOT a Carer – I Care” Insight into a Carers Role - "I'm NOT a Carer - I Care" Insight into a Carers Role Kaylene thinks back on her learnings as a carer; after all these years, she still cannot really view herself as a carer. By nature, Kaylene is extremely task-focused. When she assumed the role of carer, she realised that she had to make some READ ON
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    DON’T Underestimate The Power Of The Mind - DON'T Underestimate The Power Of The Mind Kaylene recalls that Philip’s body, over the course of only a few short weeks, actually started to heal itself to a large degree. The tumour had dramatically decreased in size which meant he would not require a dreaded gastric tube. Kaylene and Philip know without a doubt that READ ON
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    “Never Ever Let The Medical profession Steal Your Hope” - "Never Ever Let The Medical profession Steal Your Hope" Kaylene and Philip offer some insightful advice on caring. Never let the medical profession steal your hope, as it is hope that will drive enormous, positive energy throughout your very core. It is absolutely critical to question and clarifies everything; ask as many questions as you READ ON
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    “I Found The Women Of My Dreams – I’m Not Going To Die !!!” - "I Found The Women Of My Dreams - I'm Not Going To Die !!!"Cancer Patient 25 years later still alive Kaylene recalls the struggle with Phillip’s mother and father. She remembers how her mother-in-law once made the comment that Kaylene must have regretted her decision to marry Philip. Her response? “I regret nothing”. Kaylene knows READ ON
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    “Typical Male Form” – He Succeeded In Hiding His Pain ! - "Typical Male Form" - He Succeeded In Hiding His Pain! Kaylene and Philip tell a little about their life leading up to and after their wedding. They were each forced to live in cities many hours apart for an entire year due to circumstances beyond their control. One year before the wedding, however, they were READ ON
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    Cancer Diagnosis After Honeymoon Getaway!! - Cancer Diagnosis After Honeymoon Getaway!! Meet Philip and Kaylene, a truly remarkable couple, who together, have an amazing story to tell of their survival journey. Philips sudden diagnosis of stomach cancer 25 years ago was a complete shock; however, they collectively decided to battle the illness with everything they had. Many years later, as much READ ON
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    Self-Help! Pilates – The Powerful Gateway to Meditation - Self-Help! Pilates - The Powerful Gateway to Meditation Maggie says that Pilates can be a powerful gateway to meditation. Practices which helped her get to a point where she could meditate were running, yoga and, more recently, Pilates. After a Pilates session, she was able to enjoy the quietness of her body and mind which READ ON
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    “Why is Self-Care So Hard When Caring For a Loved One?” - “Why is Self-Care So Hard When Caring For a Loved One?” Maggie poses the question: Why is self-care so hard when caring for a loved one? You want to do everything you can to support and provide for your loved one who is suffering and their needs seem much more important than yours. The result? READ ON
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    Breath & Vitality – Coping Mechanism of a Carer - Breath & Vitality - Coping Mechanism of a Carer Throughout her mother’s illness, Maggie was massively into running which was to her, a valued coping mechanism. During this period, she learned much about diet and lifestyle through caring for her mother and about the huge impact lifestyle has on one’s health. This awareness made her READ ON
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    How We Shared The Pain! Talking Vs Activities - How We Shared The Pain! Talking Vs Activities Each member of Maggie’s family were not big talkers; rather they threw themselves wholeheartedly into caring for their mother. They did not largely speak of the pain they were individually experiencing or share their emotions with one another. Rather, they dealt with feelings personally by taking time READ ON
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    I became a Carer and It Changed My Life! - I became a Carer and It Changed My Life! Meet Maggie, a young woman who acted as a carer for her mother since the age of sixteen. Seven years later, the battle ultimately took its awful toll on her mother, taking her life. Maggie relates details of her dear mother’s illness and how she, along READ ON
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    Caring for the carer in all of us! - He captured my heart, body and mind from a young age. This year he has truly captured my soul. He dances to the beat of his own drum, which is different to most. He lives in the now and is full of endless energy (seriously!) and abundant happiness.
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    I lost my wife to cancer - "I lost my wife to cancer" - Story of a 36-year-old widower! Alex, ‘name-giver’ of the Carer’s Couch, shares his enlightened perspective on how the journey of cancer can be one of profound love, appreciation and perspective. He now he considers himself to be the “one of the luckiest people alive”. Alex takes us into READ ON
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    Grief Is Love You Can’t Give - The grieving process is unique and special, deserving of its own attention and compassion... in Alex’s words, “there is so much love there”. Alex, whose wife’s spirit provided the inspiration to create the Carers’ Couch, embraces grieving with love and acceptance, offering deeply wise words to those who have reached the end of the caring READ ON
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    Lung Cancer Patient Story - Lung Cancer Patient Story - Carers Couch's Ambassador & Inspiration My name is Anoula and I have cancer. I was pregnant when I was diagnosed with a very rare and aggressive lung cancer. I was told it had spread to my lymphs and was inoperable. Any treatment would be trial and error. I am also READ ON
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    “DON’T DO IT” – Important Advice from a Cancer Carer! - Sharan offers a parting piece of advice. Don’t do it! While acting as a one’s carer may seem like a perfect idea – one that is enticingly right – it is also one to avoid at all costs. Potential carers should refuse to be swept away with the wonderful notions and associated feelings that may READ ON
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    Cancer Diagnosis! Are You Caring? Get Support Early… - Sharan analyses her role as carer retrospectively and provides insights as to what she would do differently had she her time over. Self-care strategies would have been set up much earlier, mechanisms of support would have been sought from numerous sources and she would have possessed higher awareness. Sharon battled on to a large extent, READ ON
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    Coping as a Carer – How Mental & Physical Health is Essential! - This part of our discussion with Sharan covered alternative therapies and nutrition vs pharmaceutical medicines. Is there a place for both? Sharan describes how alternative therapies and nutritional changes can have a positive bearing on both the carer and patient. Due to her strong focus on health and nourishment through diet and lifestyle, her father’s READ ON
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    I Lost The Joy In My Life! Cancer Diagnosis – Confession of a Carer - Sharon explains how critical it is to maintain a high level of awareness when making the decision to act as carer for a parent or a loved one. Based on her experience, relationships with a parent can be enormously impacted when such a role is assumed. She recalls that joy, laughter and spontaneous fun became READ ON
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    Cancer Diagnosis? Hospital Nightmares! – Confession of a Carer - During this part of Martina’s discussion with Sharan, it is emphasised how much time is spent on seemingly simple tasks in the day-to-day life of a carer. Sharan describes that all personal thoughts and feelings must be put aside in the quest for helping our loved ones in their battle. Emotionally demanding questions must be READ ON
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    Cancer Diagnosis – CARER! Do You Have a Choice? - The question is posed: is there is a choice in assuming a carer’s role for a family member? Sharon recalls her experience and declares that the idea of choice did not enter her mind. She says that relationships with the family member who requires care do make a difference to a certain extent; however, usually, READ ON
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    Cancer Diagnosis Roller Coaster – Confession of a Carer - Sharan introduces herself to Carers Couch, describing her family, health and professional background. She recalls her unexpected start to her role as a carer to her father several years ago.
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    Palliative Care – “NO ONE TOLD US” - Palliative Care - "NO ONE TOLD US" Watching a loved one’s illness slide into the point of no return is a frightening and confusing experience, especially when palliation is put on the table. Khoa shares his intensely personal experience of his Dad’s health declined into palliative care and beyond. RELATED STORIES VIEW MORE
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    Palliative Care “Keep a positive mind” - Palliative Care "Keep a positive mind" Khoa knows first hand how vital it is to stay positive whilst carrying the heavy load of care. He poignantly tells how opposing emotions can coexist at end-stage, the importance of living a “good life” after our loved one passes, how he held up his physical, mental and emotional READ ON
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    Understanding Palliation – The Legal Challenges - Understanding Palliation - The Legal Challenges What is Palliation all about? It can be a confronting and confusing reality which is frequently misunderstood by carers and family; the drugs, the treatment, the battles with doctors and health staff. Hear from Khoa as he shares his deeply personal experience of trying to understand his Dad’s palliation. READ ON
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    Palliative Care – “No second chances” - Palliative Care - "No second chances" “Guys Cry”... Khoa challenges the gender stereotypes of how carers should react to the emotional side of caring, and hits hard on the importance of being real, regrets and the realities of the emotional rollercoaster ride that is caring. His key takeaway... don’t regret anything. RELATED STORIES VIEW MORE
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    IMPORTANT! TO DO LIST before your loved one passes! - IMPORTANT! TO DO LIST before your loved one passes! How do you avoid the challenges of emotional bombardment and overwhelm that can often accompany the decision to palliate a loved one? Khoa says “take a step back” and think forward... here he offers valuable advice gleaned during his experience of the daily challenges of palliation. READ ON
  • Diagnosis or death sentence - Diagnosis... it can feel like a death sentence. Getting the diagnosis can be just as traumatic as the disease itself – in that split second, our life is forever altered. Someone else, in a position of power has exercised control over the life of our loved one and is pointing the bone... “they’ve got a READ ON
  • Keys to Make Recovery a Reality - There are things we can do to get better - to survive, heal and recover - from traumatic events such as accident, disease and disability. Even when we are handed an apparently final situation or when things are hopeless and it seems all is lost, it is completely possible to make a come back. Big READ ON
  • Setting Loving Boundaries - Putting On Your Big Kid Panties: Setting Loving Boundaries   “You need to stop doing everything and take some time for you”, says the well meaning friend. “Yeah right.. like that’s an option” you reply with a hint of victim and martre. If this is you, it’s time to get your big kid panties on, READ ON
  • Self-care…What’s that?! - It’s no surprise that when it comes to self-care, the Carer is on the back foot, to begin with.   We don’t have time to look after ourselves… we have to clean, cook, manage the meds, get to specialists, shower, change dressings, balance the budget, get groceries, change beds, and get everything else done before READ ON